There was once a time when we left school, did some training and off to the same job for the rest of our working lives.
That was one big move.
Now we have many career changes and many big moves.
Doesn’t it get easier each time we go to a new job you might ask? Yes, we have picked up some skills in getting on with bosses and co-workers and yet there is still that major challenge – another change.
Each time we make a change no matter how positive, it’s stressful. So what’s the best way to deal with these workplace changes?
Pick a job you like or as near as possible to one you like. You’re going to spend a lot of time here and happiness is a better state than misery.
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If you’re stuck in a job you really dislike, start searching for something else. Find your courage.
- Give yourself a few weeks to feel a bit uncomfortable. Everybody does, even if they put on a brave face. Say to yourself,
‘In a few weeks I’ll know them and they’ll know me and it will be easier.’
Believe yourself - it will.
- Get to know your boss. Most people in charge have their funny ways. and might be picky about some things and okay about others. This is not ’sucking up to the boss’, it’s working out how to get on well with someone who can make your life easier or more difficult. Remember, always be true to yourself. So if your boss is expecting something that goes against your integrity, say so.
- Same rules apply to your co-workers. If one of them has a favourite coffee cup, why use it? Being true to yourself still applies. If a co-worker gives you a hard time, talk to them about it. Don’t just take unfairness.
- Every organisation has unwritten rules. Learn them.
- Ask for help when you need it. You’re new. You won’t be expected to know everything to start with.
- Set one new achievable goal every single day. Keep it simple e.g. I’ll introduce myself to one extra person at work today.
- Give yourself some positive talk at least three times a day, on the way to work, during work and at the end of the day e.g.
- Today I know I’ll manage . . . . . . . . . . . well.
- I find I’m getting really good at . . . . . . . . .
- Looking back on the day I’m pleased with . . . .
After six weeks you’ll be feeling part of the place and you might even lend a hand to any newcomers.
Next week
You’ve settled in well and life is good. Then a new co-worker arrives and starts to cause trouble all round. Find out how to manage them in
Dealing with Difficult People in the Workplace
